Are Your Friends Sabotaging Your Success?

Who are your REAL friends?

This is a bigger question than you may realize and it DIRECTLY affects your success in making money online and pretty much anything else. I’ll get back to this question a bit
later in this email. But let it stick in the back of your mind as you read this.

Today I want to talk to you a bit about something that is often
overlooked not only in marketing, but in life in general.

I bring this topic up because I got a question the other day and it
got me thinking quite a bit about the quality of people and
circumstances of my life. It also got me thinking of an attribute
of life most people don’t really make a part of them. I’ll get to
this a bit later in this email, be patient.

The question that got me thinking was simply this:

“Why do I have to purchase an application from you in order to work
with you or see what your business is all about?”

It’s a great question, because it addresses an attribute that has
more relevance and importance in your own life than most people
realize. What attribute is it?

To answer this, let’s delve into the overall theme of YOUR life.
I’ll start with your immediate circle of influence (the people you
spend time with regularly).

Ask yourself – what kind of people are in your life right now? Do
they fit your idea of positive, uplifting people? Do they want to
see you succeed? Are they supportive of your goals? Are your
friends your idea of real friends?

Or do you find yourself feeling “stuck” around them, held back by
an almost invisible force of negativity, skepticism and hesitation?

If the latter is the case, I’d invite you to ask yourself:

Is being around people who hold you back or keep you down really in
your best interest?

If you’re honest, you’ll realize – of course not! But many of us
are in self-denial due to becoming comfortable (to a degree) with
other people’s negativity. We would rather tolerate the discomfort
of negativity than have dissent with our friends, because… well,
they are our friends, right?

And we wouldn’t want to upset our friends - they’re our friends for a REASON… right?

But if you give it a careful look, you’ll see that subjecting
yourself to the negativity of your “friends” is doing nothing but
sucking your energy dry. If you’ve ever been around a negative
person for long enough, you’ll know what I mean.

Do you have a friend like this? If you do, either show them a
better way, limit your contact with them or GET RID OF THEM
IMMEDIATELY.

I know that sounds harsh and cold, but what benefit is it to have
someone in your life who is negative all the time, tries to scare
you out of what you are doing, is a “Dream Stealer” and doesn’t
support you with positivity?

Now note something important here: it’s okay to be open to
criticism, and you SHOULD be. Don’t go overboard, cutting everyone
out of your life who disagrees with you. Nobody is perfect. Your
friends can support you, but they can also point out flaws within
you. The key here is to be able to make a distinction between the
two.

Jim Rohn and Chris Widener, in their co-authored book Twelve
Pillars, puts it best. They talk about how the people you
habitually associate with influence who you are:

“You place every person you meet into one of three categories:
Disassociation, Limited Association, and Expanded Association.”

It’s up to you to decide who goes where based on how they affect
you.

But just remember, if you become comfortable with perpetual
negativity born of others, you have SETTLED at best and robbed
yourself of your goals at worst.

Now I promised I would discuss the attribute which addresses
everything we’ve covered so far. It’s an attribute that most people
don’t address in their lives out of guilt, social pressure,
thinking they can’t change, and a whole bunch of other “reasons.”

The attribute I’m talking about here is QUALITY.

What is quality?

For me, quality is simply holding yourself, and others, to a higher
standard of living.

The QUALITY of your circumstances determines your fulfillment. It
determines what you go for, what you avoid, and how you do certain
things.

It influences who you spend your time with, how much you spend with
them, what kind of attention you spend on yourself and how much you
spend out of your own pocket. Quality is a matter of “spending”!

“So what does this have to do with the application thing you
mentioned at the beginning, Wolf?”

The application has to do with demanding a better quality of person
in my life!

Now I’m not saying you should go out there and insist people fill
out an application to be friends with you (LOL). I hope you
understand that part!

I have an application in place for my business because it helps
screen out most of the tire kickers who are not really that serious
about starting their own business. It also screens out those
looking for a free ride and ensures that I am only dealing with
highly qualified, amicable and motivated entrepreneurs.

If I didn’t have this screening process in place we would literally
have thousands of people crawling over each other to get started
with me every week.

And this would INSTANTLY lower the quality not only of the people I
allow to be in my circle, but it would degrade the most precious
“commodity”, which is TIME.

And time is EVERYTHING. Ask yourself, do you have everything you want?
You can’t have everything you want without time, and you can’t have
time without getting your quality standards straight. They are
inter-related.

There is much more to quality as it relates to time and we’ll go
over this in future messages.

So I invite you to ask yourself – where in your own life is your
quality suffering? What kind of people do you spend time with? What
is your living environment like? Do you eat high quality food? What
is the quality of your basic thoughts?

What kinds of STANDARDS have you set for yourself and which ones
have you achieved?

How can you raise the quality of your living TODAY? All very
important questions you deserve to address right now.

Do some honest introspection and work on the quality of your life.

And if you want to increase the quality of your life IMMEDIATELY in
all areas of your life, then you deserve to take a look here:

http://www.hypertracker.com/go/30daymarketing/thankyoupage/quality_blog_post

I believe with all of my heart it will increase the quality of your
life if you let it.

Respectfully,

Wolf

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